★ A book by Motoko Hori, a Certified Psychologist of the Japanese Psychological Association. She was once an extremely negative thinker, earned the qualification in 2018, teaches communication at a vocational school, and hosts a program at a local FM station in her home prefecture of Mie.
★ Recommended by psychiatrist Shion Kabasawa. Reader rating of about 4.6 out of 5 on Amazon Japan.
★ Difficult people turn up at work, at school, in your hobby class. Hori starts with the psychological mechanism, explains where negative feelings come from, and shows you how to reset your own mind instead of solving the problem by cutting the relationship off.
★ The book sets out a four-step thought-reset method and exercises: Chapter 2 breaks letting go of worry into four steps, Chapter 4 practices “resetting the feeling of dislike,” and Chapter 6 closes with “a few things I hope you will do so your future can shine.”

At work, at school, in a hobby classroom — when someone you dislike is in the same space, every day becomes irritating; you cannot stop thinking about them, you even feel narrow-minded, and end up despising yourself.

The one you dislike is the one you think about all day — what a waste of precious time. But as long as that person stays inside your life, keeping a complete distance is hard… And even if you can, merely cutting off a tangled relationship does not solve the problem at its root; the same thing simply repeats…

The people you dislike appear at every stage of your life. Why do you dislike that person? Understand the mechanism and untangle where negative feelings come from. Learn the knack of thinking so that you can always reset your own state of mind.

Motoko Hori
Certified Psychologist / personal development consultant. Born in 1979 in Yokkaichi, Mie Prefecture. Having overcome an extremely negative way of thinking, she draws on that experience to teach psychology-based “building unbreakable resilience,” “change your words and your future changes,” and “techniques for managing your own mind”; she works as a personal development consultant. After seeing the TV program Soreike Kokorojī (“Go! Psychology”) as a child, she became interested in psychology and decided to work in a field related to the mind. At university she researched juvenile delinquency. In 2018 she earned the Certified Psychologist qualification from the Japanese Psychological Association. She has taught communication at a vocational school, hosted a program at a local FM station in her home prefecture of Mie, and coached contestants in international speech competitions; she currently works across three or more professional roles — lecturer, host, and consultant. For people who want to live positively, and in corporate settings, she teaches communication methods that help with workplace relationships.

Chapter 1 Why Do We “Dislike” Other People?
Chapter 2 Break Free from Worry with Thought-Reset Techniques — Four Steps to a Lighter Mind
Chapter 3 If the Person You Dislike Disappeared
Chapter 4 Exercises for Resetting the Feeling of Dislike
Chapter 5 Try Becoming Someone People Feel Good Around
Chapter 6 A Few Things I Hope You Will Do So Your Future Can Shine