★ With 20 years in the consulting room, Vladislav Chubarov dissects how secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised attachment patterns shape adult love, friendship and career.
★ Clear theory, vivid cases, step-by-step exercises for conflict-free, resentment-free separation and emotional adulthood.
★ Part I – How attachment is born and breaks
 Part II – Childhood legacy and adult personality
 Part III – How to relate to difficult parents without becoming one
★ For anyone who wants to finish growing up, stop toxic cycles, and raise securely attached kids.

Childhood leaves footprints we can’t see but keep stepping on. Chubarov explains how early caregiving imprints your self-worth, partner choice, money style, and parenting reflexes.

Learn to spot “attachment injuries,” calm the inner critic, set boundaries without cutting off, and give your own children the emotional container you never had. The book ends with a “healthy-attachment practice class” you can start tonight.

Vladislav Chubarov – clinical psychologist, hypno- and Gestalt therapist, executive coach to CEOs, celebrities and government leaders, and bestselling author of *Know Yourself*, *Don’t Let Your Money Fly Away*, *Don’t Let Narcissism Destroy You*, *Don’t Let Anger Eat You*, *Don’t Let Attachment Trip You*.

Preface
Part I: The Mechanism of Attachment. Attachment Problems and Trauma
Chapter 1: The Beginning of Attachment: The Circle of Care and Basic Trust
Chapter 2: Emotional Containers and Gradual Separation
Chapter 3: How People Learn to Express Their Will and Manage Conflict
Chapter 4: Where the "Inner Parent Voice" Comes From
Chapter 5: Unreliable Attachment and Separation Issues
Chapter 6: Adult Attachment. Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized
Secure Attachment: I'm OK, You're OK
Anxious Attachment: I'm not OK, You're OK
Avoidant Attachment: I'm OK, You're not OK
Disorganized Attachment: I'm not OK, You're not OK
Chapter 7: Attachment Issues Between Spouses: Coping Strategies
Attachment Issues Couple Checklist
Emergency Rules
Chapter 8: How Psychotherapists Address Attachment and Separation Issues
Chapter 9: Unreliable Attachment and Emotional Issues

Part II: Childhood and Personality
Chapter 1: The Impact of Parental and Family Issues on Personality
Chapter 2: Orphanhood and Loss Trauma
Chapter 3: The Consequences of Neglect
Chapter 4: If Your Parents Were Unreliable
Chapter 5: If You Experienced Parental Violence
Chapter 6: If You Were Loved Only for Your Achievements
Chapter 7: If You Were Used to Manipulate Family Relationships
Chapter 8: If You Were Overprotected
Chapter 9 The Family Roles You Suffered in Childhood

Part Three: How to Relate with a Difficult Parent and How to Avoid Becoming One
Chapter 1: After Separation: Distance or Closeness
The Comfortable Relationship Checklist
Chapter 2: How to Create (As Much Distance as Possible) from Your Parents Without Cutting Off Relationships
How to Create a Comfortable Distance with Your Parents
Chapter 3: How to Keep Your Nerves Calm When Talking to Your Parents
Talking to Your Parents: Practical Tips
Chapter 4: Why You Shouldn't Try to "Forgive Everything"
Chapter 5: Where to Find a Good "Inner Parent"
Chapter 6: "I'm Not Ready": A Child's Experience with Healthy Attachment
Chapter 7: How to Avoid Replicating Your Parent's Patterns in Your Relationships with Your Child
How to Stop the "Inner Parent" from Involving You Uninvited
Chapter 8: Healthy Attachment Practice Lessons: Growing with Your Child
The Healthy Attachment Checklist
Chapter 9: Separation and Care: Parents at the End of Life

Conclusion
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