★Over 115,000 copies have been sold!
★ Conscious happy living = feelings, thoughts and actions in harmony. Getting there feels like diving underwater: past defence layers to the place where ego meets id.
★ Vladislav Chubarov uses plain language and relatable stories to guide you through shame, self-worth, guilt, money, addiction, relationships, narcissism, envy and the shadow.
★ Practical tools: relaxation, forgiveness, emotional-image therapy, belief work, state work, mirroring, coaching scripts, yoga, and more.
★ For anyone who wants to know what they really need, turn strengths into super-powers, and relate to self, others and the world on purpose.

"Deep within, the boundary between the conscious and subconscious mind dissolves. Defense mechanisms no longer suppress emotions, but guide them. Mentally strong people are not immune to impulse; they recognize destructive impulses with care and gentleness, accepting them without indulging them. Mentally strong people don't rely on willpower to switch to a positive, kind, and bright channel; instead, they focus on them with a calm demeanor. In my opinion, this depth is worth pursuing."

In this fast-paced, complex, and ever-changing modern society, we often find ourselves perplexed: Why is there a constant discrepancy between our thoughts, feelings, and actions? Why do we constantly struggle with confusion despite clearly yearning for happiness?

The author of this book, Vladislav Chubarov, is a clinical psychologist, hypnotherapist, and Gestalt therapist with 20 years of extensive experience in psychological counseling. Through in-depth analysis of numerous real-life cases, he takes readers on a journey deep into their inner worlds. This journey is like diving underwater, navigating layers of psychological defenses, and ultimately reaching the boundary between the conscious and subconscious. Here, defense mechanisms no longer suppress our emotions and true desires, allowing our ego and true self to meet, and we begin to truly understand our inner world.
The book is divided into three parts. The first part, "Living Consciously and Living Unconsciously: Identifying the Ten Differences," explores key issues such as shame, self-worth, guilt and resentment, responsibility, wealth, addiction, interpersonal relationships, narcissism, jealousy, and the dark side through ten specific chapters. These are common dilemmas we encounter in daily life, and the author not only analyzes their root causes in detail but also provides practical solutions. For example, in the chapter "Shame," the author explores the sources of shame and its impact on our behavior; in "Self-Worth," he helps readers build confidence and recognize their own value; and in "Addiction," he analyzes the psychological mechanisms of addictive behavior and offers methods to overcome it.
The second part, "A Journey of Deep Exploration," guides readers on a deeper journey of self-discovery. This part includes six chapters: self-acceptance, self-growth, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, intuition, and training. Here, readers will learn how to accept their imperfections, achieve self-growth, enhance their emotional intelligence, and improve their self-awareness and intuition through training. For example, in the chapter "Self-Acceptance," the author encourages readers to embrace their strengths and weaknesses and cultivate self-acceptance. In the chapter "Emotional Intelligence," he teaches readers how to identify and manage their emotions and how to cultivate positive emotional relationships with others.

The third section, "Skills and Tools," provides readers with practical skills and tools to help them apply what they have learned in their daily lives. This section includes chapters on relaxation, forgiveness, emotion-image therapy, belief work, state work, positive expressions, mirroring exercises, self-worth work, addiction work, accepting age and aging, coaching, mentoring, and criticism, self-care, and yoga. These skills and tools, developed by the author through years of psychological counseling practice, are highly practical and accessible. For example, the chapter "Relaxation" offers various relaxation techniques to help readers relieve stress; the chapter "Forgiveness" teaches readers how to forgive themselves and others and release resentment; and the chapter "Emotion-Image Therapy" provides specific methods to help readers deal with emotional issues. This book is not only rich and practical, but also written in a lively and accessible style. Through accessible examples and insightful analysis, the author allows readers to easily grasp and apply the knowledge presented. Readers have commented that this book has helped them break free from the influence of projection and projective identification, enhancing their sense of self-worth and freeing them from external influences. It also helps readers clarify their true inner needs, discover their strengths, and become more conscious of their relationships with others and the world around them.

Vladislav Chubarov – clinical psychologist, hypno- and Gestalt therapist, executive coach to CEOs, celebrities and government leaders, and bestselling author of *Know Yourself*, *Don’t Let Your Money Fly Away*, *Don’t Let Narcissism Destroy You*, *Don’t Let Anger Eat You*, *Don’t Let Attachment Trip You*.

Acknowledgments
Introduction
How Self-Awareness Helps Build Relationships with Others and the World
About This Book

Part I: Conscious Living vs. Unconscious Living: Identify the Ten Differences
Chapter 1: Shame
How Embarrassing It Is
What Others Will Say
Someone Will Get Hurt
Happiness Is All That Matters
No, I'm Just Bad!
Chapter 2: Self-Worth
I Have No Confidence in Myself
I Don't Deserve Better
Am I the Most Popular Person in the World?
...Can I Still Have a Good Husband?
Chapter 3: Guilt and Resentment
The Bad Son
How Could He Be Like This!
It's All Dad's Fault
Chapter 4: Responsibility
The Power of Circumstances Far Exceeds Self
...Taking Responsibility for Those Who Have Been Tamed
What's Wrong with Them!
Chapter 5: Wealth
No Need for Extravagance
I Don't Have That Much Money
Why Does She Make More Than Me? Chapter 6: Addiction
I can't control myself
It's not harmful to my health
I'm just unlucky with the right men
Between the barber and the gym
Chapter 7: Relationships
Without love
Living alone
For the children
Chapter 8: Narcissism
The Picture of Dorian Gray
I'm so wonderful
Shine brightly at all times
Chapter 9: Jealousy
Who does my mother love more? Chapter 10: The Dark Side
Not Knowing Yourself
Everything is Relative

Part II: A Journey of Deep Exploration
Chapter 1: Self-Acceptance
Chapter 2: Self-Growth
Chapter 3: Emotional Intelligence
Chapter 4: Self-Awareness
Chapter 5: Intuition
Chapter 6: Training
Training for Training's Sake
Corporate Training
Nevertheless
Chapter 7: Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy in Russia
Misconceptions About Psychotherapy
The Goals of Psychotherapy
Time Required for Working with a Psychologist
Psychotherapy Methods
Provocation and Resistance
Pseudopsychologists

Part III: Techniques and Tools
Relaxation
Forgiveness
Emotion-Imagery Therapy
Belief Work: Wealth
Status Work: Anxiety
Status Work: Procrastination
Positive Statements
Mirroring Exercises
Self-Worth Work
Addiction Work
Accepting Age and Aging
Coaching, Mentoring, and Criticism
Self-Compassion
Yoga
Conclusion