★Psychological violence may exist quietly in every corner of our lives. It may come from close family members, partners, or colleagues, superiors at work, or classmates at school. This manipulation and psychological violence often wears the cloak of unconsciousness, but it has a profound negative impact on our sense of self-worth, psychological and emotional state. This book is precisely to help readers see through this hidden psychological manipulation and learn to protect themselves.
★Co-created by Mikhail Pelehaty, one of Russia’s most senior Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) trainers, the highest authority in the world's NLP field, and a proud student of the famous hypnotist Richard Bandler, together with Evgeny Spiritsa, an internationally renowned negotiation expert and 30-year human behavior research expert!
★The book not only analyzes the presuppositions of Toxic NLP and various toxic personality types but also discusses Toxic NLP phenomena in work and society, such as group bullying, workplace harassment, boss bullying, internet trolling, and domestic violence behaviors. The authors not only reveal the psychological basis and manifestations of these phenomena but also provide strategies and algorithms for preventing manipulation.

Psychological violence may exist quietly in every corner of our lives. It may come from close family members, partners, or colleagues, superiors at work. This manipulation and psychological violence often wears the cloak of unconsciousness, but it has a profound negative impact on our sense of self-worth, psychological and emotional state. This book is precisely to help readers see through this hidden psychological manipulation and learn to protect themselves.
This book is co-authored by two experts with profound attainments in the field of psychological manipulation and behavioral analysis: Mikhail Mikhailovich Pelehaty and Evgeny Valeryevich Spiritsa. Based on the research of complex psychological violence cases, cooperation with St. Petersburg criminal investigators, and in-depth analysis of social psychology and the causes of violence, they reveal the concept of “Toxic NLP” and the manipulation methods behind it for readers.
The book details the presuppositions of Toxic NLP, including dominance hierarchy, worldview models, and the manifestations of toxic communication in intimate relationships. The authors discuss the concept of learned helplessness and analyze various toxic personality types, such as antisocial personality, gaslighters, narcissists, histrionic personality, depressed “spoilsports”, hyperactive alcoholics and gamblers, and sadists.
In the “Combat Communication” section, the book analyzes role models in Toxic NLP, such as “Savior”, “Manipulator”, “Psychologist” and “Moralist”, and explores their behavioral patterns in interpersonal interactions. In addition, the book in-depth analyzes Toxic NLP phenomena in work and society, including boss bullying, group bullying, workplace harassment, and internet trolling. The authors not only reveal the psychological basis and manifestations of these phenomena but also provide strategies and algorithms for preventing manipulation.
In the interpersonal relationship section, the book discusses key steps such as incitement, attracting potential victims, establishing symbiotic relationships, progressive psychological violence, violating personal boundaries, and gaslighting. Through rich cases and practical suggestions, readers can learn to identify and resist these manipulation methods.
This book is not only an academic work with rich theories but also a practical self-protection guide. It is suitable for all people who want to protect themselves and their loved ones from the impact of psychological violence. By reading this book, you will learn how to stay sober in complex interpersonal relationships and protect your mental health.

Mikhail Pelehaty

One of Russia’s most senior Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) trainers and a proud student of Richard Bandler. He has participated in all training courses including DHE and NHR, accumulating rich theoretical knowledge and practical experience. After receiving higher education at the Higher School of the KGB of the USSR, he further studied at the Foreign Intelligence Academy, which laid a solid foundation for his outstanding achievements in the field of negotiations. As an absolute leader in the development and application of NLP tools in actual business environments, targeted negotiations, recruitment and consulting, Mr. Pelehaty also serves as the co-owner of the international company “Aseptica”, which is Europe’s largest manufacturer of cosmetics, hygiene and medical disposable products, which fully demonstrates his extraordinary talent and outstanding achievements in the business field.

Evgeny Spiritsa

An internationally renowned negotiation expert with 30 years of rich experience in human behavior research. He is committed to developing effective communication models and providing valuable guidance for people in negotiations and interpersonal interactions. As the founder of the Russian School of Tool-free Lie Detection and the founder of the Action Profiling Model, Mr. Spiritsa has achieved remarkable achievements in the field of lie detection and behavioral analysis. He also authored a profiling monograph for the Ministry of Internal Affairs, and is a teacher at Lomonosov Moscow State University and a consultant to the Investigative Committee, which fully reflects his profound attainments in academic and practical fields. In addition, Mr. Spiritsa is the owner of ICDS-GROUP.COM University, making important contributions to cultivating a new generation of negotiation experts and communication masters.

Preface, or the Origin of This Book
Introduction, or Navigation of This Book
Part 1 What Is “Toxic NLP” and Why Everyone Needs to Know About It
-Chapter 1 Toxic NLP
What Is “Toxic NLP” and How Does It Affect Our Lives
-How to Identify Toxic NLP Techniques
-Why Understanding Toxic NLP Techniques Is Crucial for Protecting Yourself and Your Loved Ones
Chapter 2 Presuppositions of Toxic NLP
-There Are No Toxic People, Only Toxic Communication
-Dominance Hierarchy and Worldview Models
-Toxic Communication and Intimate Circle
-How the Habit of Always Behaving Well Becomes the Basis of Gaslighting
Chapter 3 Learned Helplessness
Chapter 4 Toxic Personality Types
-Antisocial Personality
-Gaslighters
-Narcissists and Histrionic Personality
-Depressed “Spoilsports”
-Hyperactive Alcoholics and Gamblers
-Sadists

Part 2 Combat Communication in Toxic NLP
Chapter 5 Role Models in Toxic NLP
Chapter 6 “Savior” Role Model
Chapter 7 “Manipulator” Role Model
Chapter 8 “Psychologist” Role Model
Chapter 9 “Moralist” Role Model

Part 3 Toxic NLP in Work and Society: Boss Bullying, Group Bullying, Workplace Harassment, Internet Trolling
Chapter 10 Boss Bullying: The Dark Side of Office Power
-What Is Boss Bullying and Why It Happens
-Types of Boss Bullying and Their Psychological Basis
-How to Judge If You Are Suffering from Boss Bullying
-The Impact of Boss Bullying on Employees and Organizations
-Strategies and Algorithms for Preventing Manipulation
Chapter 11 Group Bullying: How to Fight Against Group Pressure
-Primitive Instincts in Modern Offices
-Causes of Group Bullying
-Main Manifestations of Group Bullying
-Overcoming Group Bullying: Steps to Create a Healthy Work Environment
Chapter 12 Internet Trolling: A Form of Workplace Harassment
-Internet Trolling: From Primitive Instincts to Digital Attacks
-Anthropology and Origin of Internet Trolling
-Internet Trolling as a Way to Realize the Trickster Archetype
-Unconscious Motives of Internet Trolling
-Types of Internet Trolling
-The Core Idea of Internet Trolling——Slandering Personal Reputation
-Connection with Workplace Bullying
-Methods to Deal with Internet Trolling

Part 4 Toxic Communication in Interpersonal Relationships
Chapter 13 Incitement: Another Disgusting Perspective of Reality
Chapter 14 Step 1: Becoming the “Dear Friend” of Potential Victims
-Attraction to Gain Power
-How Sadists Shape Attractive Images
Chapter 15 Step 2: Establishing Symbiotic Relationships. Resonance Characteristics in Gaslighting
-“Grand Narrative” Technique
-“Love Bombing” Technique: The Whole World Is at Your Feet
-“Sincere Admiration for Victims” Technique: How Gaslighters Strengthen Emotional Bonds
-“Regular Reinforcement” Technique: Enhancing Victim Dependence
Chapter 16 Step 3: Progressive Principle. How to Justify Psychological Violence
-From Jokes to Sarcasm and Insults
-From Passive Aggression to the First Beating
-Ignorance and Silence
-Denigration and Contempt
-Indirect Insults
-“I’m Doing This for Your Own Good”: Justifying Psychological Violence
Chapter 17 Step 4: Violating Personal Boundaries. Physical Violence
-Personal Space in Relationships
-Personal Boundaries and Their Functions in Nature and Society
-Shame Culture and Guilt Culture
-Insults and Their Types
-Insult Mechanisms and Their Impact on Victims
-Threatening Behaviors
-First Beating and Repentance
-Regular Beating and “It’s All Your Fault”
-Beating as a Way to Relieve Stress
-Consequences of Violating Personal Boundaries and Using Physical Violence
-How to Identify and Resist Personal Boundary Violations: Coping Measures When Physical Violence Occurs
Chapter 18 Step 5: How to Control Victims and Continue to Abuse Them. The Pinnacle of Gaslighting Art
-Double Messages as the Basis for Maintaining Resonance
-“Everyone Will Laugh at You”
-“You Are My Property”
-Compliance Strategies as the Basis for Abuse
-Suffering for the Sake of Children
-Suffering Without Letting Loved Ones Know: “Don’t Wash Dirty Linen in Public”
-“You Always Betray Me”: Forbidding Discussing Family Issues with Others
-Parents and Other Relatives’ Protection of Gaslighting
-Fear of Breakup: The Unknown Is Frightening
-Consequences of Social Condemnation of Manipulation and Inculcation of “Endure for the Sake of Children”
-How to Resist Manipulation
Conclusion
Appendix: Thoughts on the Dark Triad: In-depth Analysis of Personality Traits
Historical Background and Theoretical Basis
Main Research Conclusions
Result Analysis and Interpretation: Connection with the Big Five Personality Model
Cognitive Ability and the Dark Triad
The Dark Triad and Personality Development
Adaptive Aspects of the Dark Triad
The Dark Triad and Modern Society
The Dark Triad and Psychotherapy
Future Research Directions
Ethical Considerations
The Dark Triad and Leadership
The Dark Triad and the Digital Age