★An ultra-practical guide to love! Analyze and deconstruct the principles of love to successfully have an ideal love that is uniquely yours.
★The most popular elective course on gender relations.

Do you long for love but claim to be more comfortable alone?
Do you have a stable partner but still want to pursue other relationships?
Do you only want a sexual relationship, or think that a sexual relationship can bind you together?
Do you know you're not suitable for each other but dare not part ways?
Can't help being pessimistic, thinking that no matter what, you will eventually separate?

An essential guide to love for both men and women.

What is "love"? What do you want from love?
Why isn't "liking" the same as "loving"? Is love only about "passion," or should it include "intimacy" and "commitment"?
In fact, love is not something we are born with; it needs to be learned.

Many people yearn for true love but don't know how to find it, often only gaining fragmented and indirect experiences through movies, dramas, or novels; even though some have experienced several breakups, they remain "perplexed" about what true love really is. What do we really want from love? Is it sexual satisfaction? The longed-for princess or prince? Or is it just to continue the family line and meet societal expectations? In fact, you may find that in the end, you get nothing.

Love should be the freedom, initiative, and selflessness to love the other, restoring the integrity of each other's personalities, rather than depending on each other. A person with truly independent and mature character can sincerely love their partner, allowing each other to grow, be happy, and joyful, achieving a complete unity in each other's lives.

A good book on the study of love should not only teach the skills of dating. For example: how to pursue the opposite sex, how to heat up feelings, how to navigate ambiguity... Because the concepts of love behind these skills may convey a false myth, such as: men need to learn to become good PUA hunters to catch women; or that one should not invest emotions too early in a relationship because if you're serious, you lose; or that women must maintain a sense of mystery to attract men. In fact, everything has its own design principle for existence and operation. When we can unravel the 'principles of love' behind love, we can truly practice the essence and meaning of love.

Foreword: Love as an Emotion That Needs to Be Learned / Hanwen Yan
Foreword: The Intellectual Disassembly and Practical Reconstruction of the Principles of Love / Zhaoxu Zeng
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Preface: Dissecting the Principles of Love and Returning to the Essence of Love

Part One: Decoding Love - The Face of Love
Chapter 1: Don't Believe in Love! We Need to Dissect the Principles of Love
Chapter 2: The Love-Incapable Generation! Regaining the Ability to Love
Chapter 3: How to Break Free? Initiating an Intimate Relationship
Chapter 4: How Does Love Happen? The Projection Principle of Falling in Love with Someone

Part Two: Nurturing Love - The Management of Love
Chapter 5: Why Do Intimate Relationships Have 'Conflicts'? True Love Begins with Withdrawing Projections
Chapter 6: What to Do When Couples Argue? Attitudes and Issues in Love Communication
Chapter 7: Why Can't the Other Party Understand Me? Enhancing Communication Skills in Intimate Relationships
Chapter 8: The Inescapable Love Affair - Pathology of Love
Chapter 9: Sexual Choice Question - Distinguishing Sexual Attraction from True Love

Part Three: Returning to Love - The Practice of Love
Chapter 10: Love Has No Right or Wrong, Only Truth or Falsehood - Facing the 'Myths' of Love Sincerely
Chapter 11: Learn to Land Before Taking Off - Breaking Up Gracefully
Chapter 12: Must Dating Lead to Marriage? The Commitment and Creation in Love
Chapter 13: Why Get Married? The Principle of Self-Actualization in Love