★ A evergreen classic tested by 25 years in the market, now in its 8th revised edition with brand-new content addressing today's most pressing social concerns.
★ Organized along three axes—time, relationships, and inner structure—the book systematically unpacks fifteen pivotal moments in personal growth. This anniversary edition adds two focal themes—"family of origin" and "gender"—while deepening the exploration of the "shadow" ensuring the classic theory speaks directly to modern readers' dilemmas. Timely and profound.
★ Written in plain language from a psychological perspective, every chapter supplies real-life cases, guided exercises, and a curated bibliography. Accessible yet authoritative, it serves both as a roadmap for individual self-discovery and as a practical desk reference for counsellors, coaches, and educators.

25th Anniversary Edition! This book delves into 15 pivotal moments in personal growth:
-Through time: reflecting on the past, engaging with the present, and looking toward the future.
-Through relationships: examining interactions with surroundings and others.
-Through internal structure: untangling the dynamics of emotion, thought, and will.

Blending perspectives from psychology and counseling, it uses authentic cases and practical exercises to guide readers through profound themes like the impact of family of origin, gender identity, and confronting one’s shadow. Each chapter includes growth tips and reference readings, offering both theoretical depth and hands-on value—a practical guide to self-awakening and professional development.

Xiangjiang Qu
Mo Guozhi & Zheng Huizhen Chair Professor (Counselling); Former Director of the Breakthrough Counseling Centre. He holds an MA in Marital and Family Therapy and a Doctor of Pastoral Studies from Fuller Theological Seminary. Over the years, he has focused extensively on men's growth issues, conducting growth groups, seminars, and marriage lectures.

Books include:
Resolving 13 Crises in Marriage,
Awaken:15 Milestones to Personal Growth,
Pathways to Joy,
9 Survival Skills to Redefine Your Future,
I Want Authentic Relationships,
A New Perspective on Men’s Counseling (co-authored),
and the "Men’s Trilogy"—
The Paths of Men,
The Secret of an Unfailing Husband,
The Excellence of a Father.

Fiction works include:
The Counseling Maze,
The Coat Left Behind.

9 Survival Skills to Redefine Your Future received the 2015 Golden Reading Award for Best Book (Tech & Lifestyle Category).

New Revised Edition Foreword by Leung Pak-Kin
25th-Anniversary Expanded Edition Preface by the Author
Expanded Edition Foreword by Leung Wing-Tai
Expanded Edition Preface by the Author
First Edition Foreword by Lee Siu-Hong
First Edition Preface by the Author
Musings on Growth
A Blueprint for Growth

[Me in the Time Tunnel]
1 Past: Storytelling and Growth
2 Past: Clearing Unfinished Accounts
3 Past: Family of Origin and Personal Growth
4 Present: Mastering Life Stages
5 Future: Transitions and Growth

[The Self in the Relational Web]
6 Self and Environment: Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone
7 Self and Environment: Reading, Life Experience, and Growth
8 Self and Others: From Unconditional Acceptance to Self-Acceptance
9 Self and Others: Differentiating from the Group
10 Self and Others: A Personal Growth Journey through Gender-Role Struggles
11 Self and Self: Meeting the Many Faces of Me
12 Self and Self: Integrating the Mask and the Shadow

[The Mature Self—Cognition, Affect, Will]
13 Cognition: Correcting Negative Thought Patterns
14 Affect: Healthy Emotional Expression
15 Will: Strengthening the Willpower Muscle
A Forty-Year Growth Story
Analysis of Growth Thresholds
Afterword
Personal Growth Bibliography