Sharp "truth talk" output, helping women recognize the truth of gender relationships

1.Loved ones should not experience guilt imposed by the other party. What you need to understand is that his decision to break with his parents for you is his own choice. He believes being with you is more comfortable than listening to his parents, so he willingly chose you.

2.You love him with nine-tenths of your heart, but he only loves you with six-tenths. You don't demand his full love, but you hope he reciprocates with the same nine-tenths of love, which is not too much to ask, yet he refuses to give it – and that's why you're hurt.

3.Engaging in a relationship is about seeking sexual satisfaction for oneself, not to fulfill the other's desires, because you don't need to please them.

4.Do not attempt to obtain material wealth from someone who is poor, life experience from someone who is just starting out, or self-confidence from someone who is insecure.

5.When it comes to romantic love, as lovers become familiar, the brain may not produce enough dopamine, so even if your lover remains as perfect as ever, you cannot be aroused in the same way.

6.Only when the relationship is clear can there be no role confusion, and knowing your position can also reduce harm.

7.In life, many positive and negative terms convey almost the same meaning, but due to different expectations, they are categorized as positive or negative.

8.There is no such thing as "wanting nothing" in human relationships.

9.When we encounter losses, the wisest approach is to cut losses in time, rather than spending a lot of resources to recover the losses.

10.Children need not just a complete home, but more importantly, complete love.

11.In fact, cold treatment when encountering problems may not work either. Just like when you are dissatisfied, it is the time to make changes yourself.

12.The cure for the body and the cure for the mind, the difference in the best choice is that the former is in the hands of the doctor, while the latter is in your own hands.

★ Ranked 51st on Dangdang's Success/Motivational Bestseller List
★ Teacher Shui Miao's Clear Guide for Women - Women who pass the emotional barrier will thrive!
★ A 10-year emotional consulting practice note from a psychological health instructor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, distilling essence from millions of emotional consulting cases, allowing women to nurture themselves anew
★ Not only does it allow women to see themselves again, but it is also a book dedicated to women's self-growth!
★ Sharp "truth talk" output, helping women recognize the truth of gender relationships

This is a book about achieving self-growth in intimate relationships. We long for an eternal and sincere relationship but also fear getting hurt in the emotional world. From passionate love to lingering sex, to arguments after the passion fades, to the gradual emergence of lies and betrayal, to the healing in the depths of the soul, and finally to the presentation of a new self, the author, from the perspective of a professional psychological counselor, allows us to see ourselves again and enlightens women to be aware and examine themselves with warm and wise words.

Shui Miao, after 13 years of psychological counseling work and receiving tens of thousands of real consultations on gender relationships, has found that avoidance or confrontation in gender relationships is not true strength, but a defensive pseudo-strength. Many people have an implicit resentment deep in their hearts; they feel unloved and worthless. This is more terrifying than losing a lover—it is losing the ability to love someone.

This book shares the psychological knowledge, views on love and marriage, communication methods, and self-protection methods that must be mastered in gender relationships. It allows those who are in a period of confusion, healing, or still have expectations for a relationship that is about to end but do not know how to salvage it, to learn to weigh and perceive, and to live a more beautiful emotional life with reason and insight.

Shui Miao

Shui Miao is a best-selling author, a national second-level psychological counselor, a master of psychology from the Chinese Academy of Sciences, a psychological health instructor at the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and a promoter of writing therapy. She has published papers in core journals such as "Pre-school Education Research" and "China Family Planning and Obstetrics and Gynecology". She has been engaged in psychological counseling for 13 years and has published and translated more than 20 books, including representative works such as "No One Can Hurt You", "My Hand Writes My Heart", and "Out of the Wilderness of the Soul" (translated work). She is skilled in using cognitive-behavioral therapy, narrative therapy techniques, short-term focused counseling, expressive arts therapy, and group psychological counseling; she is also adept at writing therapy group counseling and guidance.

Chapter 1
In Love, There's Always a Way to Be Together
Love Brings Hurt
Not Loving Does Not Mean Causing Harm
Choosing to Retreat Is Because Your Love Is Not Deep Enough
Arguing Over Right and Wrong Only Chills the Relationship Faster
Because I Love You Too Much, I Won't Marry You
Psychological Knowledge: The Triangular Theory of Love

Chapter 2
Getting Along, Is It Not Enough Love or Incompatible Personalities
Don't Let Incompatible Personalities Be the "Scapegoat"
What You Like Now May Be What You Hate in the Future
He Didn't Give It to You Because He Doesn't Have It
Create Love Instead of Constantly Consuming It
Why Are You Always Being Picked On
I Love You So Much, Why Don't You Love Me
Psychological Knowledge: Projection Effect
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