It’s not that you don’t know how to love — you just need a "rulebook for love"!
How to make someone fall in love with you? This book delivers real, actionable answers.
Love isn’t random fate — it’s a conscious collision of mindset and action.

[Are you stuck in these dating dilemmas?]
Longing for love but repelled by shallow "fast-food romance"
Trapped in a stagnant social circle, left with awkward silences after forced matchmaking
Ruining potential relationships because you "don’t know how to make them work"
Torn between unrealistic standards and settling, draining yourself in the process

★This book cuts through the fluff and tackles the root problems. It’s for:
Perpetual singles who always kill the conversation
Dating newbies lost in anxiety-ridden situationships
Idealists who crave love but refuse to compromise
Those haunted by the "3-month curse" in relationships

★ Deep Analysis: Decodes why dating is hard—from societal pressures to psychological barriers
★ Step-by-Step Solutions: Covers icebreaking, attraction, communication, and long-term commitment
★ Science-Backed Strategies: No clichés—just actionable, proven methods

This book adopts a social psychology perspective to deeply analyze the root causes of contemporary young people's dating and marriage dilemmas, while proposing systematic solutions. Structured into three key sections — "Cognitive Awakening"， "Breakthrough Strategies"， and "Relationship Evolution" — it addresses core issues such as attraction traps, ice-breaking techniques, and long-term relationship maintenance. Incorporating practical tools like the "Quantum Change Principle" and "Hint-Guiding Tactics"， it provides readers with a scientific and actionable guide to finding love and navigating relationships. Written by professional counselor Wu Hai, the book integrates theory with real-life case studies to help young people break free from the singlehood curse and achieve emotional freedom.

[Key Content Preview]
Part 1: Awakening Your Mindset
The "Quantum Leap" Principle: 3 steps to break the "small circle → no options → isolation" cycle
The Attraction Trap: Why chasing a "perfect persona" backfires
Reality vs. Fantasy: Balancing social expectations with your true needs

Part 2: From Zero to Connection
Icebreaking Hacks: Use "keyword topics" to escape awkward first dates
Psychological Triggers: Make them ask you out with subtle nudges
Double Your Confession Success: Avoid the "all-or-nothing" love confession pitfall

Part 3: From Passion to Permanence
Creating "Easy Love": Design rituals to keep long-term sparks alive
Fight Fixer’s Toolkit: Rebuild intimacy when conversations fade or fights escalate
Long-Distance Lifeline: The "emotional recharge" tactic for preventing awkward silences
★ Self-Diagnosis Tool: "Cognitive Bias Detector" to escape one-sided thinking
★ Conflict Alchemy: Nonviolent communication to turn fights into deeper bonds
★ Love Lab Metrics: Spot the difference between short-term lust and lasting compatibility

Wu Hai
A certified psychological counselor (National Level 2) and member of the Chinese Psychological Health Association, with additional credentials in group counseling and mental health coaching from the Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences. Specializing in relationship psychology, he integrates socio-cultural perspectives with evidence-based methods to address modern dating challenges.