I particularly like the "Children's True Feelings" provided in each section. It allows adults to understand why the author later suggests that we guide children in a certain way. It turns out that behind the difficulties children encounter, there are such thoughts that they hope we can see. For example, in section 18, which talks about the issue of children being bullied by classmates, the author "translates" the child's thoughts like this:

It's really hard to pretend that nothing has happened. I don't know if my parents know or not, or if they know but pretend that everything is okay. I feel like no one is on my side, and I'm alone everywhere. I really want to rely on someone, and I hope someone can stand by me and help me, but I'm also afraid that the situation will get worse, so I do nothing.

------------Clinical psychologist, Director of Milu Valley Psychological Therapy Institute / Luo Yufen (Excerpted from the Traditional Chinese version)

The author is on the teaching front line, carefully manages relationships with children and parents, seriously records and writes for publication in the long - term. The book includes 52 situations, covering the age range from kindergarten to adolescence! Situations like "Walking hand - in - hand means we have a good relationship" and "My classmates think I'm nagging, but I just want to tell him a better way" are very much part of daily life and are also difficult problems that many parents are currently struggling with.

------------Parenting education promoter / Chen Qizheng (Ugly Dad) (Excerpted from the Traditional Chinese version)

★Traditional Chinese copyright has been sold!
★For those who are on the fringe, being led astray, being excluded, or are too passive... A primary school teacher directly witnesses the interpersonal troubles that children don't tell you. How much should parents intervene?
★Analyze the children's true feelings to help adults understand the unspoken thoughts behind their dilemmas.
★A primary school teacher personally analyzes and provides the most in - depth observations from the interaction scenes.
★Rational and straightforward advice, every word is precious, giving parents the most direct guidance.

◎ "I like being alone. It doesn't matter if I don't have friends." Does he not want to make friends or is he unable to make friends?
◎ You ask your child to be more proactive, but he replies, "You taught me to be polite and yield, but now you want me not to yield!"
◎ "My classmates always make fun of me with nicknames." The child is frustrated. Should parents report it to the teacher?
◎ "I don't like any of his friends." Worried that others will lead your child astray?

Transferring to a new school and failing to integrate into the new environment; constantly changing "good" friends, and each friendship doesn't last long;
Only being able to play with the best - known classmates, but not with others in the class;
Eating slowly, running slowly, reacting slowly, and being excluded every time when grouping;
Arguing with others when there are disagreements in group discussions;
Often spending money on gifts to please classmates...
Are you a parent trapped in these parenting troubles?

The author, Ryu Yoon - hwan, a master from Seoul National University of Education, is currently a primary school teacher in Seoul.
As a class teacher, he has two opportunities to have face - to - face talks with parents each year. The topics mostly revolve around schoolwork, making friends, and daily life, among which the problem of making friends troubles parents the most.
Since parents are mostly not present during the process of their children making friends, and children are not likely to tell their parents the truth. If parents are too eager to intervene, it is likely to turn into a dispute between the two sets of parents, and the situation often gets worse.
The primary school teacher in Seoul, who is always on the front line during the children's process of making friends, has specially selected representative troubles that children have in interpersonal relationships,
Letting parents know: What is he really thinking? And how much should I intervene?

◎ How much of his true feelings do you understand?
The child is very introverted and has no friends? What he thinks is: "It's tiring for me to take the initiative to say hello to others!"
Worried that he has no主见? "It's easier for those who don't have to make decisions! What's wrong with following what classmates say?"
The child is too competitive and refuses to admit defeat. In fact, this competitive mentality of the child comes from the parents.

◎ The situations that parents can't see trouble children the most.
"What should parents do when their child is always made fun of by classmates with nicknames?" How much should parents intervene?
"Obviously I was bullied, but no one is on my side." How can you let your child know that you care?
"I don't really hate him, but other classmates are all speaking ill of him." How can you give advice without bothering the child?

The son can't break into the boys' circle, and the daughter can't break into the girls' circle;
A certain child forces my child not to play with others.
How much should parents intervene in these children's troubles in making friends?

For those on the fringe, being led astray, being excluded, or being too passive...
The primary school teacher solves the parents' troubles regarding their children's friendship problems, so that you no longer have to worry.

Ryu Yoon - hwan
A primary school teacher in Seoul, committed to treating children with a warm perspective and a gentle heart, and interpreting their inner thoughts. Every day, he feels frustrated, regretful, and reflective because the efforts and results are often disproportionate, but he still keeps getting up.
Feeling that it would be a pity if the memories with children evaporated, he started his writing journey. He likes to think about issues related to students, schools, and education, and also likes to express his thoughts in this regard in words. He writes articles about the ponderings and experiences during his teaching tenure, hoping that in this process, he can bring a little help to others.
Currently, he is continuing to develop his professional teaching skills at the Institute of Education, Seoul National University of Education. His works include *The Dictionary of Sweet - and - Sour Mental Strength*, *A Glimpse into Classroom Variety* (co - authored), *Children Who Speak with Confidence and Gentleness*, *Methods of Making Friends Successfully*, etc.

**Chapter 1: How Much of His True Feelings Do You Understand?**
1. I like being alone. It doesn't matter if I don't have friends
2. It's tiring for me to take the initiative to say hello to others
3. Walking hand - in - hand means we have a good relationship
4. I'm not arguing with him. I'm just stating my thoughts
5. Who says I like comparing? My mom likes comparing more!
6. Who says I'm close to him?
7. I also want to be fast, but I just can't
8. My mom taught me to be polite and yield in everything, but now she doesn't want me to?
9. Isn't it okay to have no主见? The one who doesn't have to make decisions is the most relaxed!
10. I'm just sticking to my opinion, but you say I'm stubborn?
11. Mom always peeks at my diary
12. I'm already used to watching my parents' expressions

**Chapter 2: The Situations Parents Can't See Troubles Children the Most**
13. My classmates always make fun of me with nicknames
14. Adults can put on makeup and drink alcohol. Why can't I?
15. I don't really hate ○○, but my classmates all say bad things about him
16. Is it embarrassing to quarrel with classmates?
17. I'm not "pretending to be good". I'm really good
18. Obviously I was bullied, but no one is on my side
19. My classmates think I'm nagging, but I just want to tell him a better way
20. It's not just me bullying him. Everyone hates him
21. I'm not blaming my friend. I just want to explain what happened
22. I want to go to a celebrity autograph - signing event with my friend

**Chapter 3: How Much Should Parents Intervene in These Problems?**
23. Not having a best friend
24. The son can't break into the boys' circle
25. Always worried that he can't get along well with classmates
26. Having a romantic partner
27. A certain child forces my child not to play with others
28. Confessing for the first time but being rejected
29. No one wants to play with my child
30. Only playing with the best - known friend, not with others
31. Puberty is coming. How can I help?
32. The daughter can't break into the girls' circle

**Chapter 4: In This Period, Interpersonal Relationships Mean Everything**
33. His opinions are often rejected by friends
34. Sticking with classmates all day long
35. Other children are leading my child astray
36. The relationship between the child and his friends is unequal
37. How can I make him learn to take the initiative to apologize?
38. Making friends by giving gifts or money
39. Failing to integrate into the new environment because of transferring to a new school
40. Constantly changing friends, and each friendship doesn't last long
41. Being popular at the beginning of the school year but being alienated later
42. Excessively craving the attention of classmates
43. On the first day of the new semester, being afraid of not making new friends
44. Choosing to accommodate others to maintain the friendship
45. I don't like my child's friends

**Chapter 5: Things Parents Can't Do Instead of Their Children**
46. Helping children make "good friends"
47. Teaching a lesson to those who bully my child in person
48. Do I have to attend parent - teacher gatherings?
49. When to step in and when to let go
50. If there's a problem with my child's friendship, it must be my fault
51. I don't like any of his good friends
52. Do I have to be a better parent?

### Postscript: Parents Should Guide and Let Go of Their Children