★The communication skills that thousands of parents need to master—hearing their children and letting them hear.
★Let parents words bring children courage and confidence, not hurt; create mutual respect and cooperation, not conflict.
★Methods and Strategies: Empathy and Acceptance of Children— Parental Self-Management— Improving Parent-Child Relationships
①Give common life examples— to help analyze the child’s psychology
②Give specific solutions— give parents communication advice
③Give after-school thinking contact— review and summarize to improve ability

Talking and listening properly is the only way to get the words into a child’s mind, and that the child is willing to keep the words in mind.

“How stupid you are, how useless you are, how stupid you are, how disobedient you are...” When you teach repeatedly, but the child can’t learn anything; when you feel helpless, have you ever used violent language to your child?

What may seem like a flippant remark to you is felt by the child as a total denial. In a child’s mind, what their parents say is the truth, and they can easily agree with their parents’ words. There is no perfect child. When we communicate with our children, think twice and control our own mouths, do not let that hurtful words out of the mouths. A good parent can make a child feel warm and can give the child the strength to grow up.

This book goes from analyzing 13 categories of emotions, to methods for positive parenting, to specific communication advice. Each life scenario is accompanied by specific dialogues, in which the author teaches you how to analyze emotions and gives you specific advice. The theory is scientific and practical!

Li Shaocong
Graduated from Beijing Normal University, Li Shaochong is a family education expert and best-selling author. Her scientific education concepts and subtle education methods are popular among parents and adolescents. She has published works such as “30 Lessons on Growing Up for Children before the Age of 13”, “Good Character Achieves a Girl’s Lifetime”, “Good Habits Achieve a Boy’s Lifetime”, and “A Good Child is out of Praise”, etc.

Part1 Empathy: Accept Your Child’s True Feelings
01 Sadness: Effective Comfort, Not Denial
02 Pessimism: Encourage, Don’t Discourage
03 Anger: Guide Them to Vent and Avoid Violence
04 Grievance: Show Understanding and Listen Well
05 Fear: Explain patiently, Don’t ridicule
06 Boredom: Give up Lecturing, Use Facts to Communicate
07 Worries: Listen Carefully, Don’t Interrupt Casually
08 Curiosity: Respond Positively, Don’t be Evasive
09 Shy: Lead Slowly, Don’t Push
10 Enthusiasm: Give Affirmation, Don’t Chill
11 Rebellion: Talk Along, Don’t force
12 Act Shamelessly: Be Soft and Gentle, Don’t Suppress
13 Selfishness: Guide to Cooperate, Not Label

Part2
Self-Management: Emotional Control for Parents
01 Finding the Source of Your Anger
Your anger comes from your desire to manipulate
Family Influence: Do your parents always yell at you?
Anger at your children because you are in a bad mood