There are no negative emotions, not even sadness, anger or fear, since they are all mechanisms that help us deal with different realities. But in our society there are times when an emotion that overflows or explodes can cause us problems. For this reason, the process must follow an order: you have to start by defining each emotion, then recognize which ones govern us personally and finally, learn to control them, and even to play in our favor.

To achieve this, we will have to work a lot inside. We must explore and observe which are those impulses that we are not able to stop and with tests and exercises that favor our self-esteem, tame them little by little. Working on empathy is another pending issue if we want that personal knowledge to be reflected in our social life.
Emotional intelligence can be learned and trained. Acquiring self-knowledge is possible with tests and exercises that force us to look inside ourselves to offer the best of ourselves to others.

Taking into account that 80% of personal or professional success is related to emotional intelligence, it is striking how little this subject has been discussed until just a few years ago. With the theory of multiple intelligences, the starting gun was fired for a new thought, no longer classifying as intelligent only people with logical-mathematical or linguistic aptitudes and opening up the range to other capacities and, among them, to the called emotional intelligence.

A person who correctly identifies their emotional states and who is capable of managing feelings, such as anger or frustration, and treating them as positive learning, will not only be happier, but will probably be better integrated into their community, be more valued at your job etc.

Of course, the tests are not only a way of self-knowledge, but rather are practical exercises focused on everyday situations in which they can be useful to us. In this way, we are going to work on the work and love spheres, two spaces in which it is very necessary to have tables such as tolerance, flexibility and the ability to negotiate. The sphere of the couple is also linked to emotions that can destroy us, such as excessive dependence, manipulation or simple routine. All of them can be avoided with good emotional intelligence.
The last chapter is dedicated specifically to childhood, since a good emotional education is the basis for becoming a responsible, morally strong, self-confident adult who flees from aggressive or self-destructive attitudes and who, ultimately, is happy.