★The Simplified Chinese copyright has been sold!
★A book of healing heart by a psychologist offering his own miserable experience who has been suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder(OCD), anxiety, and depression for years and talks deeply about anxiety.

We are too used to repressing anxiety, but the little kids in our hearts always know that the wound is lurking.
The root of anxiety is trauma, and trauma never leaves...

You have diarrhea when a test is on. Though well paid, desperately overtime never stops with worrying about inadequate money. Once your boyfriend does not pick up the phone, you would blow up his phone...
Behind all of these seemingly common anxieties lurks trauma. It is the trauma of not being loved, of losing connection, of being denied yourself. Those wounds need to be seen, felt and healed by you.

Relationship Anxiety: "Will you stop loving me someday?" Every love relationship requires constant reassurance of love from the partner.
Money Anxiety: "I don't want to become a lower class old man!" Tighten your money bag to buy a house and learn how to invest and manage money.
Survival anxiety: "I feel like I'm never good enough!" Coming from a patriarchal family, she struggles to prove herself.
Workplace anxiety: "If I don't work hard overtime, I'm afraid my boss will fire me because I'm worthless..."

We're so good at covering up our anxiety with perfection
When the anxiety frenzy hits, we do nothing but repress, avoid, and paralyze. We're better at covering up our anxiety in socially acceptable ways, such as having a big meal, shopping sprees, playing video games constantly, and even socially praised ways, such as being a workaholic.
But as the anxiety monster grows stronger and stronger with our abundant feeding, anxiety can sneak in, take control, and erode our character. Anxiety can permeate our every thought and behavior until one stressful moment triggers a serious mental illness.
Say to our little self, "Thank you for protecting me back then."
We need to get to the root cause of our anxiety, because if the root cause of anxiety is not dealt with, it would keep shifting objects.
From high school to college, Wesley, a psychologist who is trapped in an OCD where he forces himself to open and close the door to check on himself for more than eight hours a day, as well as despairing depression where he could hardly breathe with his throat pinched tightly, and could only pray that he wouldn't wake up the next day, uses his harrowing experiences to tell the readers that, although a traumatic childhood is like a battlefield, it's hard to escape from it, and you don't want to remember it or go back to it ever again. To heal anxiety, we need to go back and find the you who was in pain and was a little kid, and help him talk out his pain, help him shed his tears, and then hug him gently and tell him, "Thank you for protecting me back then."
Anxiety is rooted in trauma, and trauma never leaves.
Those emotional orphans of fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, frustration, sadness, loneliness, etc., need to be seen and felt by you.

Wesley Chuang
A psychological counselor and currently the director of Lumiere Counseling Center. He has been dedicated to translating difficult psychotherapy concepts into vernacular language and assisting clients in applying them in real life.
He is also a writer-in-residence at several online platforms. His main writing topics include issues such as anxiety, depression, and difficulties in getting along with partners to give readers the opportunity to explore their deep connection with their families of origin.
He has published Why Do We Always Love Wrong? - Combating Your Family of Origin and Getting Out of Stray Love.