★A new book by bestselling author Dr. Hili Kochavi who is also an educational psychologist!
★A bestseller in Israel and reprinted 3 times after its publication!
★Full English Translation available!

“Good Parents” is an Israeli best selling book that points a spotlight towards the crucial role parents play in building their child’s personality. It is written for parents of children of all ages – babies, toddlers, pre-teens, teenagers, and adults – and provides a guide for the Jewish way of raising happy, confident, communicative, creative, moral children who contribute to society.
This uniquely progressive book will give parents practical tools and know-how, teaching them everything from how to raise children to believe in themselves and their abilities, how to establish healthy communication with teenagers, to what you can do to prevent child-raising from taking over your romantic relationship.

Dr. Hili Kochavi is an educational psychologist and holds a PhD in Psychology from Tel Aviv University. She has worked with parents for many years in her private clinic and in the public sector and has accumulated a rich repertoire of experience when it comes to counseling parents.
She wrote her first parenting book, “The Israeli Guide to Parenting” thirteen years ago, and it was received enthusiastically and has since become one of Israel’s most successful books on parenting, remaining a steady seller to this day. In her new book, “Good Parents”, Kochavi takes parents a step further, basing her writing and advice on psychological theory, recent research, and her own abundant experience. In the first four months since its initial publication, the book sold thousands of hard copies and hundreds of digital copies, topping Israel’s bestseller lists.

A few words before we begin—or: how this book came to be

Part I
Your ultimate destination—the goals of parenting

Love
1. Functioning without love is impossible—regarding the monumental importance of parental love
Self-Worth
2. I can see it in your eyes—the importance of parental enthusiasm for the development of self-worth

Safety in the World
3. Allow me room in your world—raising children who believe the world is a good, safe place
 
Joy and Enjoyment
The creation of childhood memories—the importance of a positive atmosphere in both the parental experience and raising children
4. It is child’s play! Games and fun as an integral part of parenting and child development
5. Give me back my child—raising happy children in the era of smartphones, tablets, computer games and screens

Emotional Management
6. “Like a bridge over troubled water”—dealing with the question of regulating your child’s emotions
7. I need it! N-O-W!—why it is important for children to learn gratification delay and to give thanks

To be “Themselves”
8. I told him, I believe you’re very much like me—the similarities between children and their parents as a contributing factor for the child’s self-identity
9. Good children – “too good” children—what is the “true self” and why our children shouldn’t be “too good”
10. To see the other from within, to see thyself from the out—the key facture of mentalization in parenting and child development

Abilities and Motivation
11. “There is nothing I can't do”—how can we help our children believe in their ability to succeed
12. “I can and I want to—raising responsible children who are both self-motivated and dreamers

Raising Human Beings
13. “My father has a ladder—it can reach the sky”—children’s hero worshipping of their parents as a basis for acquiring positive values
14. Good children—“bad” children—every child wants to be “good,” though sometimes it’s hard
15. Enough is enough—the function of boundaries and parental authority in raising children

Part II
Enjoying the process—putting yourself (and others) first

Content Parents
16. Why is it so complicated?—the parental challenges of our generation
17. Children are a joy—the complicated relationship between parenting and happiness
18. Being parents in the “here and now”—what is Mindfulness and how does it connect to parenting?
19. Judging ourselves with kind eyes—the special role of being compassionate to one’s self in regard to parenting

It Takes a Village
20. Helpful, involved, or a full partner?—being a present father who is fully involved in raising their child
21. Making space for romance—it was there first—on the connection between being a couple and being parents
22. “They’re not against us, they’re on our side!”—on the relationship between parents and their children’s educators and education system

Parental Awareness
23. “I sound just like my mother…”—the trans-generational crossover and how it affects our parenting
24. To know how to tell ourselves our life story—how can we let go of our past unwanted demons

Part III
It comes in various ways—parenting during life’s special circumstances
25. “We don’t slam door in this house!”—parenting teenagers
26. A bad partner is not necessarily a bad parent—being divorced parents
27. “This child made my heart grow two sizes”—being parents to a special needs child
28. So many possibilities—on parenting in new forms of families

Part IV
Go slow—additional thoughts on parents and parenting

29. In Nature, too—it is impossible to do without love—on the commonalities between human parenting, and parenting in the wild
30. Raising children “without human touch”—on the historical changes in the way we look at parenting and how we treat children
31. “Take the child and bring him back fixed”—thoughts on child psychology and therapeutic work with parents.
Conclusion—on a personal note