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“Why did you slam the door ?”
“Then why are you so mad?”
The most troublesome and heartbreaking parenting problem for parents and teachers, finally has a solution!

◎Parent-child and teacher-student, from kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school to high school, the prevention of “Oppositional Defiance”, to get out of the trap, and to see the trick and relationship repair.
Children who suffer from oppositional defiance are scarred one after another in their hearts. The easiest way we don't want our children to have those emotions and behaviors is:
We don't show these behaviors and emotions ourselves.
• “I don't want to go home! I want to play!” It's playtime, but your child is lying on the floor crying and everyone is pointing at you... it's embarrassing… why do children always act like that?
•The teacher just walked into the classroom and the child started arguing again. “I don't think we can have a good class today. He's doing it on purpose. The other classes are fine… why is he picking on me?”
•“Why is he picking on me, I don't believe you can't be cured!” You are so enraged, and when your children argue with you, you argue back. How can we untie the “knot” in this relationship?

◎At what point have we become dissatisfied with our beloved children?
Children who have oppositional defiance are angry, provocative, argumentative, and seem to have the upper hand over adults. The most difficult thing is that the situation of “Oppositional Defiance” is different at each stage of development. Dr. Yi-Chung Wang provides comprehensive methods and guidelines to help adults with headaches and heartaches rebuild relationships with their children.

◎Most of the Oppositional Defiant children don't have a sense of “illness consciousness”.
“It's all someone else's fault, I'm not wrong!” If we say one sentence, the child will reply with ten sentences, which makes the parents very angry. Children who have oppositional defiance are actually very sensitive and will easily rebound when they feel blamed. But if we let go of our preconceived notions and release our good will, it will help reduce the child's self-defense hostility.

◎Adaptation and change are mutual.
The resolution of oppositional defiance is an improvement in the relationship. It's not just about asking the child to change, it's not about forcing the child to listen, and it's about the adult and the child working together through the emotional turmoil. Through mutual trust and respect, the child learns to recognize and then resolve his or her own emotions. The rose with thorns will eventually be willing to embrace us.
Although the child has oppositional defiance, he or she really wants someone to see the fragility behind the teeth and claws.

Chapter One
[Advance Deployment] The Way to “Prevent” Oppositional Defiance
What to Do If Your Child Disobeys You? - Testing the Water Temperature of Oppositional Defiance 018
What to Do If Your Child Gets Angry Easily? - Coping with Anger 028
“Social Control” on the Horizon: How to Deal with the Smart Actuary 037
What to Do If Your Child Has the Upper Hand on Adults? - “I Just Want You to Pay.” 046
What If Children Always Ask for Things from Adults? - Give Your Child What He or She Wants for a Limited Period of Time and for a Limited Amount of Time 056
What If the Child Doesn't Care About the Consequences of His Behavior? - Watch Out for the “Adverse Effect” of Punishment 064

Chapter Two
[Frustration and Powerlessness] “Getting rid of” the Difficulties of Oppositional Defiance
Children's “Selective” Cooperation: Choosing the Softer Side 074
What to Do If Parents Want to Give Up Parenting? “Powerlessness” and “Frustration”: An Alternating Cycle 082
What to Do If the Child Disrupts the Classroom? - Teachers Should Be Aware of Own Behavior 090
What If the Teacher Can't Control the Students? - Don't Let Classroom Management Hit a Dead End 099
Who Understands Teachers' Wounds? - Escaping the Harsh Atmosphere 109
Who Caused the Oppositional Defiance? - The Unbridgeable Wall of Dialogue 118
Confronting the “Involuntary” Counseled Children: Questions about the effectiveness of coaching 127

Chapter Three
[Solving the Problems] “Seeing the Solution” to the Problem of Oppositional Defiance
What to Do If the Child Deliberately Makes Adult Angry? - “Don't Be Suspicious, I'm Trying to Provoke You.” 136
“What Kind of Attitude Is That?” - Who Disrespected Whom First? 145
What to Do If Children Are Easy to Provoke Adults? - Avoid Letting Your Children Control Your Emotions 154
What to Do If the Child Verbally Abuses Adult? - He's Just a Child. 164
What to Do If the Child Is Argumentative? - Don't Get Caught Up in Your Child's Schemes. 173
What to Do If the Child Blames Others for His Problems? - “Everything That's Wrong Is Your Fault.” 182

Chapter Four
[Repairing Scars]: The “Relationship Repair” of Oppositional Defiance
When Relationships Drift Apart: The “Negative Energy” of Antagonism Is Brewing 192
What to Do When Your Child Is Full of Antagonistic Attitudes? - The Killer in the Classroom 201
What to Do When Your Child Has a Bad Attitude? - A Ceasefire and Reconciliation 210
What to Do If Your Child Is Always in Conflict With Adults? - “Teaching by Example”, an Enduring Truth 218
What to Do If Your Child Is Always Vindictive? - Allowing Revenge to Have a “Tolerance Value” 227
What to Do If Your Child Is Always Hateful? - Recalling the Good Interactions Between Parents and Children 236
Stubborn Oppositional Defiance: Common “Co-morbidities” and “Identification” 244