“A true delight to read a book that is entirely a celebration of Focusing, which is so rare in parenting areas.”

“I'm thrilled by the honesty, clarity, and especially the generosity in presenting the exercises – it's not at all obvious.”

“It contains knowledge interwoven with stories, and the explanations are so accessible. Fantastic!”

“The book is a valuable and practical tool for implementing the respectful parenting approach.”

“Without a doubt the best gift parents can give themselves.”

“Lilach gives a fantastic model for listening and being more self-aware.”

★Inspired by the highly acclaimed Focusing approach developed by E. Gendlin, the book presents a synergy between Focusing and Respectful parenting, integrating conceptual insights with practical tools. It provides a revolutionary yet straightforward path to raising well-adjusted, happy, and con¬fident adults.

Establishing a firm, mutually respectful, and unwaveringly accepting bond with our children is the cornerstone of nurturing them to become individuals we can genuinely be proud of.
Providing a fi¬rsthand account, the book documents a real parenting group, revealing personal stories and progressions. It serves as both a comprehensive Focusing textbook with detailed exercises and a“behind-the-scenes” guide.
A captivating read for anyone intrigued by change and healing processes, it opens a window into a world where parenting becomes a dynamic journey of growth and understanding, transforming theory into practical wisdom.


From the Author
Parenting can bring countless moments of unimaginable bliss. But it also excels in revealing moments of despair, frustration, and struggle. The heart expands to contain this unprecedented love, while bringing seemingly unanswerable questions to the surface.
This process sometimes leaves parents on their own. The conversation is full of premeditated opinions and labels that sometimes can create guilt. We look everywhere for a place to fit in, where we can feel like ourselves again and support us moving forward.
I believe in children and their inclination towards good. I also believe in parents - their knowledge and unique set of resources. I developed the 'Focusing in Respectful Parenting' approach to help support hundreds of families.

Lilach Benjaminy-Coorsh is a therapist, Focusing teacher, and Systemic Constellations facilitator with 22 years of dedicated support for families and guidance for therapists. She conducts study groups and seminars for professionals and parents, contributing to the creation of a healthier society.
Residing in a rural area with her partner and ¬five children (plus two more of the heart), Lilach holds a Master of Music degree, and her diverse journey includes seven years as a software engineer, nineteen years of being a homeschooling mom, and twenty-nine years of chopping salad for family dinners.
Beyond her qualifi¬cations and experience as a doula, breastfeeding consultant, Birth-Oriented Therapy senior facilitator, and instructor, Lilach is a passionate women's advocate. She believes in life – and implicitly trusts its wisdom, power, and flow.